It’s not unusual for gifted kids to feel different. Maybe that’s because they are a little different. They are, of course, like other kids – just more.  They are more intense, more curious, more emotional, more… you get the idea. But those aren’t the only reasons gifted kids are and feel different.

Some of the reasons gifted kids feel different is due to their asynchronous development. Their intellectual, social, and emotional development is often out of sync.  As adults, this asynchronicity isn’t really significant because by the time gifted kids reach adulthood, the development in all areas is complete. But in their younger years, this asynchronous development is a problem.

It’s hard for a child who is chronologically 6, intellectually 10, emotionally 6, and socially 8. That’s just one of many possibly configurations, but in pretty much every instance, their intellectual development is ahead of the rest. It means that they won’t understand why the other kids don’t get their jokes and don’t share their intense interests. They may take it personally and get emotionally upset. They may also have a hard time developing friendships.

Gifted kids also feel different due to their advanced verbal and reasoning abilities. This advanced ability can lead them to be misunderstood and even to be manipulative, which creates additional problems. Some of those problems, such as arguing like a lawyer over rules, are more of a problem for parents than they are for the kids, but they do affect the lives of these children. When they are misunderstood, they can feel rejected and even inferior.

A final reason gifted kids feel different comes from perfectionism and emotional sensitivities. Positive perfectionism isn’t a bad thing. After all, we want our children to do their best work. But when they feel everything they do must be absolutely perfect, then they may avoid anything for fear of failing.

Intense emotional sensitivities can create problems for a number of reasons, including the potential to experience existential depression, feeling overwhelmed by concerns over poverty, injustice, and other human issues. Intense emotional sensitivity can also  make it difficult for gifted kids to take even the mildest criticism.

The feelings of being different come as a result of being gifted. Gifted children didn’t ask to be born gifted, so they are not intentionally behaving in ways to make themselves stand out and seen as different. However, it’s not unusual for some gifted children to respond to their feelings of being different by being as different as they can be. If other kids see them as weird, then they figure they might as well be weird. I can relate.

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It's not unusual for gifted kids to feel different. Maybe that's because they are a little different. They are, of course, like other kids - just more.  They are more intense, more curious, more emotional, more... you get the idea. But those aren't the only reasons gifted kids are...